A Description of Gottman Method – Atlanta Couples counseling

Our Atlanta couples counseling team is trained in various therapeutic approaches, with one that stands out as particularly effective—the Gottman Method. This method is especially helpful for couples struggling with communication issues. Whether they’re caught in an endless cycle of conflict or have emotionally disconnected from one another, Gottman Method can help couples shift to more connection and effective communication. We understand how frustrating it can be when conversations seem to go nowhere, or when the emotional distance between you and your partner feels too great to bridge. You’re not alone, and the Gottman Method offers a proven way to rebuild that connection.

The Gottman Method for couples counseling was developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, whose institute has spent over 40 years studying relationships. Their work is groundbreaking—so much so that they have a specialized lab where couples are observed while their physiological responses are measured during interactions. John Gottman has even shown that he can predict with over 90% accuracy whether a couple will divorce after just five minutes of meeting them. This ability comes from his deep understanding of the subtle, yet powerful, dynamics in their interactions, backed by decades of extensive research.

Wondering what our Atlanta Couples Counselors look for in Communication? The four relationship killers are as follows:

• Contempt
• Criticism
• Defensiveness
• Stonewalling

Our team is deeply passionate about the research behind the Gottman Method. Many of our Atlanta couples counseling clients come to us feeling stuck in their communication patterns—frustrated, unsure of how to move forward, and uncertain if their relationship can improve. We understand that breaking these cycles can feel overwhelming, especially when emotions are running high. But Gottman’s approach provides couples with research-backed strategies that help them communicate more effectively. It’s not just about talking; it’s about truly being heard, understood, and empathized with. Over time, couples begin to feel a deeper connection, with clearer communication and greater emotional closeness. This leads to more productive conversations and a stronger partnership.

What do we teach couples to do instead of the relationship killers? Based on the research we teach them the following:

• Gentle Startup
• Own your feelings, and promote gratitude
• Try and see things from your partner’s side, and apologize where appropriate
• Self-soothe

Here’s a fascinating insight from the Gottman Institute: the frequency of conflict does not predict divorce. This might seem surprising, but it’s a key piece of the Gottman Method. Instead of expecting conflict to disappear (although, for many couples, it naturally decreases), we focus on making conflict more productive. The goal is not to avoid disagreements, but to navigate them in a way that fosters understanding and connection. When handled with care and respect, conflict can actually strengthen the relationship. Couples who use the Gottman Method learn how to approach disagreements as a team, rather than feeling like adversaries. This shift in perspective helps them feel more united and focused on solving problems together, creating a foundation of mutual respect and lasting commitment.

And utilizing Gottman Method can help with so much more than just conflict. We see our couples growing in intimacy and connectedness, spending purposeful time together, and even growing their friendships.

Want to meet some of our team?

Karen Michael, MA, LPC, NCC. – Atlanta Couples Counselor

With years of experience as a therapist in Atlanta, Karen is deeply committed to helping people unlock their full potential, guiding them through life’s challenges with compassion and understanding. She views each person as a unique individual, with the strength to grow, heal, and thrive in their own time and way.

Karen’s client-centered approach ensures that every person who comes to her feels truly seen, heard, and valued. She works hard to create a warm, welcoming space where clients feel comfortable exploring their emotions and experiences. Specializing in the Gottman Method for couples, trauma-informed care, and techniques for managing anxiety, Karen brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to her work. She is particularly passionate about helping both individuals and couples cultivate more balance, deeper connections, and renewed joy in their lives.

For those seeking flexibility, Karen currently offers virtual counseling sessions, making it easier than ever to begin the healing process from the comfort of your own home. No matter where you are, Karen is here to support you on your journey toward growth and fulfillment.

Mikela Hallmark, MS, LPC – Atlanta Couples Counselor – Founder and Director of Clinical Services

It is truly a privilege for me to work with couples who are navigating challenges in their relationships but are deeply committed to rebuilding connection and understanding. Many of the individuals I work with are high achievers, constantly setting high standards for themselves in both their personal and professional lives. Despite their many successes, they often find that maintaining meaningful connection or clear communication with their partner becomes a struggle. My goal is to guide couples in developing the essential skills needed to enhance communication, foster emotional attunement, and ultimately reconnect with their spouse or partner.

With over 13 years of experience in the mental health field, I bring a rich mix of professional knowledge and real-life insights. Before transitioning into counseling, I worked in business, which allows me to relate to clients facing similar professional pressures. Over the years, I’ve had the honor of working in various environments, including residential treatment centers, clinical leadership roles, and private practice. Helping others navigate their personal growth and relationship challenges is something I truly love.

I am trained in several counseling methods, though I tailor my approach to best meet the unique needs of each individual and couple:

• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): Helping couples strengthen their emotional bonds and reconnect on a deeper level.
• Gottman Method (Level 3): A research-driven approach that focuses on improving communication and resolving conflicts effectively.
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Time-tested strategies to help manage anxiety, depression, and emotional regulation.
• Trauma-Informed Therapy, including EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): A powerful tool for healing past trauma and moving forward with clarity.
• Specialized treatment for challenges like relationship infidelity, attachment wounds, and depression.

As a licensed professional counselor in Georgia and a licensed mental health counselor in Florida, I am committed to creating a safe, nonjudgmental space where you can explore the complexities of life and relationships. My focus is always on supporting you as you work towards healing, growth, and greater connection with those who matter most.